Single Mom Adoption
Our family of four is growing in size;
In no time at all, we’ll be a family of five.
Yes, that is right. We are expanding our family.
No, I am not pregnant.
We are adopting!
Growing up, I always wanted a large family and knew that I would adopt children with special needs. When I had children of my own with special needs, I thought perhaps it was God’s way of giving me what I always imagined my future to be like.
So, I focused on nuturing my children and waited to see what the future would bring.
Even though I had three children, I knew I wasn’t done. I still wanted a larger family. I assumed I would get married before I was 30 and then work on adoption with my husband. I’ve come to realize that marriage just isn’t in the cards for me. And that’s okay.
I also thought that there was no way they would approve a single mother to adopt children with special needs. I was also under the impression that single mothers/single people in general were not able to adopt or foster in the state of Arkansas. The more I learned, the more I realized I was wrong. Single mothers are chosen a lot and actually preferred by some. Single mom adoption isn’t as uncommon as I first thought!
When I realized this a few years ago I began getting serious about the idea of adopting as a single mom. I sent letters to inquire about the process and even filled out a couple applications but found it hard to commit to the process and stopped. But I never stopped browsing the children available and praying that if it was in God’s plan it would happen.
Another fear was the fear of judgement. I’m already judged as a single mother. What will everybody think when I announce my intentions to grow my family as a single mother? I’ve never lacked confidence in my ability to raise more children as a single mother, but there is just something scary about the unknown.
But, the more I thought about it, the sillier it seemed. Why was I worried about what people would think when I was trying to give a child a loving home? If I was going to be judged, then so be it.
The Big Reveal
Over the weekend, the kids helped film and edit a video announcing our plans to adopt. They had already been involved in the process of searching for available children and I had to get on the ball with announcing before they spilled the beans.
We are all super excited, and while we each have our preferences as to what kind of child we would like, we know that it is ultimately in God’s hands. We are only in the baby steps and there is a lot that must be done in order for this to happen (for one, I want to trade my car for a van). I cannot give a timeline, but it could be anywhere from 4 months to 4 years. You never know what can happen. In the meantime, we are preparing as much as we can.
I will be filming a video with some frequently asked questions as well as answering some on the blog, so if you have any feel free to leave them in the comments, send an email, or find me on social media.