We are… ADOPTING! – Single Mom Adoption

We are Adopting! #SingleMom #Adoption

Single Mom Adoption

Our family of four is growing in size;
In no time at all, we’ll be a family of five.

Yes, that is right. We are expanding our family.

No, I am not pregnant.

We are adopting!

We are Adopting! #SingleMom #Adoption

 

Growing up, I always wanted a large family and knew that I would adopt children with special needs. When I had children of my own with special needs, I thought perhaps it was God’s way of giving me what I always imagined my future to be like.

So, I focused on nuturing my children and waited to see what the future would bring.  

Even though I had three children, I knew I wasn’t done. I still wanted a larger family. I assumed I would get married before I was 30 and then work on adoption with my husband. I’ve come to realize that marriage just isn’t in the cards for me. And that’s okay.

I also thought that there was no way they would approve a single mother to adopt children with special needs. I was also under the impression that single mothers/single people in general were not able to adopt or foster in the state of Arkansas. The more I learned, the more I realized I was wrong. Single mothers are chosen a lot and actually preferred by some. Single mom adoption isn’t as uncommon as I first thought! 

When I realized this a few years ago I began getting serious about the idea of adopting as a single mom. I sent letters to inquire about the process and even filled out a couple applications but found it hard to commit to the process and stopped. But I never stopped browsing the children available and praying that if it was in God’s plan it would happen.

Another fear was the fear of judgement. I’m already judged as a single mother. What will everybody think when I announce my intentions to grow my family as a single mother? I’ve never lacked confidence in my ability to raise more children as a single mother, but there is just something scary about the unknown.

But, the more I thought about it, the sillier it seemed. Why was I worried about what people would think when I was trying to give a child a loving home? If I was going to be judged, then so be it.

The Big Reveal

Over the weekend, the kids helped film and edit a video announcing our plans to adopt. They had already been involved in the process of searching for available children and I had to get on the ball with announcing before they spilled the beans.

We are all super excited, and while we each have our preferences as to what kind of child we would like, we know that it is ultimately in God’s hands. We are only in the baby steps and there is a lot that must be done in order for this to happen (for one, I want to trade my car for a van). I cannot give a timeline, but it could be anywhere from 4 months to 4 years. You never know what can happen. In the meantime, we are preparing as much as we can.  

I will be filming a video with some frequently asked questions as well as answering some on the blog, so if you have any feel free to leave them in the comments, send an email, or find me on social media.

Author: Aduke Schulist

Aduke Schulist is a 30 something content creator living in the heart of Arkansas. She enjoys blogging, vlogging, and spending way too much time on social media. Aduke is a big fan of true crime documentaries and advocating for people with special needs. You can find Aduke on social media as @AdukeSchulist.

21 thoughts on “We are… ADOPTING! – Single Mom Adoption”

  1. I am SO happy that things have changed – or at least seems that they have, to allow single capable mothers like yourself to adopt special needs children. You are an angel! You deserve this! Much love.

  2. Wow! Congratulations! I think it’s amazing that you’re adopting and giving another child a family to cherish and love. I’m glad that you tried your best and now you’re just waiting for the results. The video is adorable.

  3. You are one great mom! You and your kids must be excited to have another member of the family. Your dedication to help children with special needs is highly commendable. I hope your tribe increases.

  4. Think it’s admirable that you are giving an unwanted child a home and somewhere to beloved. I don’t think marital status should dictate who and who isn’t capable of loving and bringing up a child so good on you for following your dreams!

  5. Wow, this is so exciting for all of you! Ignore the judgement and do what you want to do and what’s best! The child you eventually adopt will have a truly loving home and that’s all that matters 🙂

  6. Congratulations! That is so very exciting for you, your family and especially the child you adopt. You will change their world forever! Wishing great things for you in the future!

  7. What a wonderful post and you are so nice to share this story with us, I have a friend and want to adopt a child too but she doesn’t have a husband even a boyfriend she doesn’t like to grow old alone.

  8. Oh, congratulations on your decision. Adopting is never easy and I admire you for that. Please update us on your new angels journey. God bless!

  9. OMG!!!! HOW EXCITING!! Congratulations!! Adopting is such an amazing thing that a person can do! I’ve always wanted to adopt a child and do plan on doing o in about a year or two.

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