Things Homeschoolers Hate To Hear

Things Homeschoolers Hate To Hear

Homeschoolers are constantly being subjected to people’s opinions regarding what they think is best for their children. Not only are homeschoolers constantly told their decision to school at home is wrong, they are also being told repetitive things they get tired of hearing. Here are Things Homeschoolers Hate To Hear:

Things Homeschoolers Hate to Hear

– Are they socialized?

If sitting in a classroom with 20-30 students the same age everyday is being “socialized”, then no. Homeschoolers are spending their time with a wide age range of people, learning how to socialize in real life situations. This is especially cringe worthy when my children were just talking and carrying on a conversation with the person (or their kids) who said it. 

– Are you qualified to teach them?

Are you qualified to help with your children’s homework? As the parent of MY child, yes I am qualified. I am the MOST qualified person to teach my child.

–  I could never do that.

You could. You simply chose something else. 


– You must be patient.

On the contrary, we may lose our patience more than public school teachers. Because we are teaching our own children, homeschool parents are allowed to be a little less patient 😉 


– You have a lot of time on your hands

I wish! Anybody who thinks a parent who stays home and homeschools their children has a lot of time on their hands is sorely mistaken. Homeschooling takes up a lot of our day. All meals are eaten at home which means cooking and cleaning three times a day, and not to mention everything else going on. Homeschoolers are busy! We especially hate when you ask us to watch your kids because “we are home”.   


– How do they make friends?

Easy! Most homeschoolers participate in “extra” activities like 4-H, sports, arts, co-ops, scouts, church groups, and have frequent field trips and play dates. Most areas have active homeschool groups allowing homeschoolers to make lifelong friends (of all ages!).


– Public school is much cheaper

Both are equally expensive. You just have to chose which expensive you want. Public school extra curricular activities usually don’t have the fees that some homeschool activities have, but once you factor in the cost of supplies, uniforms, equipment, etc it evens out.


– My kids go to private school, so they don’t deal with the same negativity problems as public schoolers.

These problems exist in ALL school settings. Just because your kid goes to a private school doesn’t mean they aren’t introduced to negative things.

Next time you catch yourself wanting to utter one of these phrases, think about what you may be implying.

Single and Seeking

Single and Seeking

I have noticed that when somebody – male or female – is single and seeking, they suddenly become all these great and marvelous things to other people. It seems like they can’t be single and seeking without others needing to comment on what a great person they are and how they deserve the best.

I am in that single and seeking crowd and everytime I mention it on social media I am told how great a person I am and all this other feel good stuff. When did desiring a relationship equate to a lack of self-esteem? Can’t we just seek for a mate without all the praise? And who says that because you desire a relationship that you are unhappy with what you currently have?

For the record, I am happy with myself. I am happy in the situation that I am in, but that doesn’t mean I can’t desire more happiness. Despite what some may believe, desiring a relationship doesn’t make one desperate. If that were the case, I would have married the first thing to cross my path. Additionally, I dislike all the “You don’t need a man” and “Focus on your kids” talk I have heard. Of course I focus on my children. They wouldn’t be where they are if I didn’t. And of course I don’t need a man. But I want one.

Single and Seeking

 

I want one for myself; not for my children. I can raise my children all by myself, thank you very much. But raising my children doesn’t give me all that I want. I want to be more than “just a mom”. I can’t get that intimate cuddling, and adult conversation that I desire from my children. They don’t need to be involved in adult things. And you know, sleeping alone kinda sucks.

Most importantly, I want to be sealed to my family. I want the blessings that come from that. But, I don’t want to hear “You will find the right one when the time is right”. Of course I may. But I also may not. Either way, life goes on.

In the meantime, I remain:

Single and Seeking,
Aduke

Before You Get 4-H Chickens

4-H Chickens: First time chicken owners

I blogged on Life as a Convert a while back about our 4-H Chickens. It was basically me saying I had no clue what I was doing raising baby chicks and that I hoped beyond all hoping that I could keep enough alive (3) to fulfill our obligation to 4-H. I’m happy to report that I was able to keep exactly enough pullets alive to participate in the Show and Sell required as part of getting the 4-H chickens. Kaia’s chickens got a blue ribbon and sold for right over $30.

Before you get Chickens..

 

After auctioning our remaining three pullets off, we were left with three roosters. They served no purpose except eating the bugs outside. Two of them have since died, but we are keeping the third and only surviving chicken as somewhat of a pet.

Kanga-Rooster AKA Roo is a friendly little chicken who enjoys popcorn and pecking at the window when it’s time to come inside at night. From the time we got him and his siblings (RIP little chickens), we have learned so much and want to share with you you what you should know before getting 4-H chickens (or any chickens!) for the first time.

They eat and drink a lot.

– Seriously, a LOT! I grossly underestimated how much they would eat/drink. Even as day old chicks, those suckers devoured food. Depending on how many chickens you have, I recommended getting double the amount of food you think you will need.

4-h-chickens-walking-in-food

Not only do they eat a lot, they waste some by scratching in it, or even defecating in it. My advice? Go to your local farm store and stock up! Buy.All.The.Food!!

They need to be kept “high and dry” and have a place to roost at night.

– Maybe this one is obvious, but I had to learn it the hard way. We turned an old dog house into a chicken coop and thought it would be great for the chickens. Except it was super hard to clean out, and my attempts at cleaning it, only left bleach soaked poo on the ground.

Dog House Turned Into Chicken Coop - 4-H Chickens

After living in it for a little over a month my entire flock got sick and half of them died. This was due to them being on the ground (with their poop) at night. It’s best to have a coop that is safe from predators, easy to clean and access, and has a place for them to roost. (We are looking into getting a chicken tractor or remodeling the current coop in the meantime Roo (our single remaining chicken) spends the night in the house inside a dog cage that is much easier to keep clean)

They will peck you!

– They most definitely will. They will peck your toes and ankles and anything else within pecking reach. It won’t hurt, but it will scare you and make you jump. The anticipation of getting pecked will cause fear. Feeding time – when all the chickens come running towards you – will result in you (or Kaia) running around like a chicken trying to avoid getting pecked.

Chicken wire isn’t made for chicken coops.

– This was another hard lesson. I ended up using three different kinds of wire on our dog house coop before declaring it secure. I recommend getting the ¼ – ½ inch hardware cloth wire and using that. It will keep your chickens in and predators out. Keeping the chickens in is just as important as keeping the predators out. Our first death happened from a chicken getting stuck in the wire (pictured above) trying to get out. It could have been avoided with hardware cloth.

Be aware of what predators are in your area and safeguard against them.

– We had a few chickens die from predators. I take the blame for this. They did not get into the coop, but rather got the chickens when they were free-ranging.

They need space and entertainment.

– I had no clue that chickens would peck each other. Not only do they peck each other, they draw blood, de-feather each other, and still continue to peck! Overcrowding will cause them to peck each other.

4-H Chickens - Overcrowding in a Coop

I’ve since learned that you should have about 4 square foot of space per chicken. Also, chickens get bored and will peck each other when bored. I solved the boredom by giving them cabbage, corn on the cob, and other treats. My chickens’ boredom was a result of them being “cooped up” prior to them being big enough to be let out of the coop. They were confined to their coop until they were no longer able to squeeze through the fence separating my yard from the neighbors’ yards.

Overall, they aren’t too hard to take care of. There are just a lot of dos and don’ts that you should familiarize yourself with before signing up for 4-H chickens. I recommend websites like Backyard Chickens and Facebook poultry groups specific to your area. Additionally, individuals who have participated in the 4-H Chickens/Poultry programs before can be a great source of information.

Have you ever raised day old chickens?

Meet ROK

Meet ROK!

I am sitting here sorting through pics and thinking back to just a few short months ago when we got our second dog, Rok. I know, I know! I never even blogged about it. Whoops! Consider this, my introduction: In May, we got Rok. Rok is 75% husky, 25% albino shepherd, and 100% gorgeous! Meet Rok:

Meet Rok

It all started many months before when my kids were begging me to get another dog. They wanted a Husky, but I refused to spend $400+ on a dog. I told them I would like to just get an older dog and give it some love before it passed away. Older dogs don’t get adopted as quickly as puppies do. I also told them if a husky became available at a shelter we would get it, otherwise we were getting an older dog.

Rok the Husky : Husky & Albino Shepherd Puppy

When I told everybody I was looking for a senior dog, they thought I was crazy.

“You should get a puppy” they said

And,  “An older dog is going to die sonner.”

That was kind of the whole point. I knew getting an older dog would mean watching them pass, but I also knew that we could give an older dog lots of love and let the years or months they had left be some of the best ones.

We searched for months on all the local animal shelter websites and social media pages, looking for the one that was just right for our family. We even went to the animal shelters a few times and though we saw a couple, none seemed right for our family.  

Rok the Husky - Puppy

Then, a friend on Facebook said her dog was pregnant with Husky puppies. Her dog is an Albino Shepherd/Husky mix and the dad is full Husky. Before the puppies were even born, we told her we wanted one. That ended our search for the perfect dog. I wasn’t really thrilled with getting a puppy, but the kids were all about it.

Rok was born March 15th and we brought him home on May 2nd.

A boy and his dog - Rok the Husky - Puppy

The kids named him Rok after my Uncle’s dog Roc who lived with us a few short weeks in January after my Uncle passed away.  

Upon bringing him home, I insisted the kids work with him and get him trained! Our other dog came to us as an adult and to this day will not follow simple commands like sit or stay. One of the first things was crate training. I’ve never crate trained a dog before, but it has been much easier than I anticipated. Rok will go to his crate when told “Go to bed”, and he will “wait” to get out until we “release” him. He will also wait to eat until we “release” him. He knows “sit” and will walk on a leash which our other dog won’t.

I couldn’t be more thrilled with how obedient he is. The kids have done a wonderful job training him. He is now 7 months old and growing like a weed. His coat is much darker and he is super playful. Rok hasn’t met a dog he doesn’t want to play with. His favorite things are chewing rawhides and annoying his little Yorkie sister Malori

Six Month Old Husky Puppy

Does your family have any pets? If so, what kind?
Currently, we have 2 dogs and 1 chicken. The chicken is like a 3rd dog, spending its days outside and nights in the house inside a dog crate.

2016 Popsugar Reading Challenge

2016 Popsugar Reading Challenge

Ever since I was a little girl, I have loved reading. If there was a reading challenge, I was in on it. I have fond memories of going to the library with my family, checking out books, and spending countless hours reading in my bedroom along with my sister. While my sister went on to be an author, I just continue reading in my bedroom and checking out multiple books from the library.

Around the end of 2015 I started keeping track of the books I read on Goodreads. I have missed a few along the way, but for the most part, they are all there. When 2016 rolled around, I decided to participate in the 2016 Popsugar Reading Challenge. The idea was to explore some styles of writing that I may not otherwise read on my own and push myself to read MORE.

2016 Reading Challenge

 

So, I printed out the list, taped it to the inside of my pantry and have been ticking off each category that I’ve finished. I chose to only count a book one time even if it falls under multiple categories. I thought it would be fun to share with you what I have been reading to complete the challenge.

Below is the challenge along with the book I’ve read to complete it followed by the categories I still have to go.

Completed Books:

YA Bestseller
The Bunker Diary by Kevin Brooks
Book you haven’t read since high school
Goosebumps by R.L. Stine (multiple ones)
The Boxcar Children
Book set in your home state
Fade by A.K. Morgen
A book set in Europe
Me Before You by Jojo Moyes
A book that’s under 150 pages
Our Search for Happiness by M. Russell Ballard
A New York Times bestseller
Joe Picket series by C.J. Box
Book that’s becoming a movie this year
13 Hours: Story of Benghazi by Mitchell Zuckoff
Book recommended by someone you just met
Clan of the Cave Bear by Jean M. Auel
A self-improvement book
The Nice Girl Syndrome by Beverly Engel
A book you can finish in a day
The Detour by S.A. Bodeen
A book written by a celebrity
Eat & Run by Scott Jureck
A political memoir
Zero Footprint by Simon Chase
Book at least 100 years older than you
Adventures of Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain
A book that’s more than 600 pages 
Mini Shopaholic by Sophie Kinsella
A book recommended by a family member
Sempre by J.M. Darhower
Graphic novel
The Gunslinger: The Battle of Tull by Robin Furth
A book that’s published in 2016
Stricken by A.K. Morgen
A book that takes place during Summer
Open Season by C.J. Box
A book and its prequel
Tom Sawyer by Mark Twain
A murder mystery
The Price of Innocence by Lisa Black
A book written by a comedian
Chelsea Chelsea Bang Bang by Chelsea Handler
A dystopian novel
Winterkill by Kate A Boorman
A book with a blue cover
Bird Moon Lake by Kevin Henkes
A book of poetry
Street Poems by Robert Froman
The first book you see in a bookstore
Need by Joelle Charbonneau
A book from the library
Close To The Bone by Lisa Black
An autobiography
The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer
A book that takes place on an island
Ferocity by Kayla & Preston Dean

Books To Read:

Book based on a Fairy Tale
National Book Award winner
A book that’s guaranteed to bring you joy
Book about a road trip
A book about a culture you’re unfamiliar with
A satirical book
A classic from the 20th century
A book with a protagonist who has your occupation
Book from Oprah’s Book Club
Science-fiction novel
Book translated to English
A romance set in the future

If you have any suggestions for titles for the incomplete list, please leave them in the comments! I’d love to try and finish this reading challenge in 2016.