Single and Seeking

Single and Seeking

Single and Seeking

I have noticed that when somebody – male or female – is single and seeking, they suddenly become all these great and marvelous things to other people. It seems like they can’t be single and seeking without others needing to comment on what a great person they are and how they deserve the best.

I am in that single and seeking crowd and everytime I mention it on social media I am told how great a person I am and all this other feel good stuff. When did desiring a relationship equate to a lack of self-esteem? Can’t we just seek for a mate without all the praise? And who says that because you desire a relationship that you are unhappy with what you currently have?

For the record, I am happy with myself. I am happy in the situation that I am in, but that doesn’t mean I can’t desire more happiness. Despite what some may believe, desiring a relationship doesn’t make one desperate. If that were the case, I would have married the first thing to cross my path. Additionally, I dislike all the “You don’t need a man” and “Focus on your kids” talk I have heard. Of course I focus on my children. They wouldn’t be where they are if I didn’t. And of course I don’t need a man. But I want one.

Single and Seeking


I want one for myself; not for my children. I can raise my children all by myself, thank you very much. But raising my children doesn’t give me all that I want. I want to be more than “just a mom”. I can’t get that intimate cuddling, and adult conversation that I desire from my children. They don’t need to be involved in adult things. And you know, sleeping alone kinda sucks.

[tweetthis url=”″]I want to be more than “just a mom”. [/tweetthis]

Most importantly, I want to be sealed to my family. I want the blessings that come from that. But, I don’t want to hear “You will find the right one when the time is right”. Of course I may. But I also may not. Either way, life goes on.

In the meantime, I remain:

Single and Seeking,

Author: Aduke Schulist

Aduke Schulist is a 30 something content creator living in the heart of Arkansas. She enjoys blogging, vlogging, and spending way too much time on social media. Aduke is a big fan of true crime documentaries and advocating for people with special needs. You can find Aduke on social media as @AdukeSchulist.

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