What I Learned From Being Single

What I Learned From Being Single by Aduke Schulist
What I Learned From Being Single

I’ve done a few other posts about being single. I know some of y’all are tired of hearing about it and feel like I’m beating a dead horse, but bear with me.. Being single has taught me a lot of things.

Here are just a few of them:

What I Learned From Being Single by Aduke Schulist

How To Manage Time

I’m not always the best at it, but I think I’m pretty good at getting things done. Being single has taught me to prioritize things and multi-task where needed. These things help me manage my time.

I’ve learned that it’s okay to take time for myself and to leave my house messy sometimes in order to do that because I know just how much I am actually capable of.

Aduke Schulist - Portrait at Riverside Park
Kaia recently helped me snap a few pictures of myself.
How To Use Tools

My mom taught me from an early age how to put stuff together. She had a tool box stocked with some tools. Mine is seriously lacking even some basic items. Throughout the years, my tool box has expanded and I’ve learned how to use tools I can’t even name properly. Just recently my mom helped me remove the drain pump from my washer and I replaced it all by myself today.

How To Be Alone & Entertain Myself

Are we ever really alone if we have Netflix?

Who is watching Netflix - Family Profiles - Aduke

I’m only kind of kidding.

One thing I miss is also something I cherish about being single.. I like the alone time and being able to watch or do whatever I want. On the other hand, being alone sucks and sometimes I find myself wishing I had somebody to share in the entertainment with.

The memories I am making now are memories my future husband will only get to hear about in the future.

The Qualities I Really Want In A Man

Having had many failed relationships in the past, I can confidently say the qualities I really want in a man (and those that would just be extras). I don’t think it’s being picky at all to know the qualities we are looking for in a man.

Every failed relationship has taught me something valuable for a future relationship.


Waiting. So much waiting. John Waller’s song While I’m Waiting has brought me peace at many times and reminded me to be patient.

Some Desires Don’t Die Down

I’ve always wanted a large family… but being single for so long just does something to keep that desire stirring. There is nobody to tell me that my family is complete, and the desire to expand my family hasn’t gone away.

Unfortunately, I won’t be doing that biologically now thanks to the news I received in this blog, but adopting is still in the works.


Faith is to hope of things that are unseen… and I have faith that the Lord has not forgotten me.  No matter how hard some days, or nights, may be, I have faith that my Heavenly Father knows exactly what He is doing with my life.

What are some lessons that being single, or being married taught you?


Author: Aduke Schulist

Aduke Schulist is a 30 something content creator living in the heart of Arkansas. She enjoys blogging, vlogging, and spending way too much time on social media. Aduke is a big fan of true crime documentaries and advocating for people with special needs. You can find Aduke on social media as @AdukeSchulist.

18 thoughts on “What I Learned From Being Single”

  1. I think getting to know yourself is always a plus. To know that you can confidently do what you need to do on your own. It is always nice to have that partner but it is nice to know you are your own person.

  2. I loved reading through your list of the things you’ve learned from being single. I moved from my parent’s home to a home with my new hubby…so I have never lived alone. There is something to be said for having time for yourself and learning more about who YOU are as a single person and not as part of a couple.

  3. I tell my daughter it is SO important to at least at one point in her young adult life to live ALONE! Living alone is the best way to really get to know yourself and understand what you do want in a partner. I agree sometimes it is nice to be single and get to make ALL choices and decisions on one’s own! I am married but there are times my husband puts on a Netflix show and I just space out from boredom lol, granted I would not trade him for anything BUT you are right about ALL of your points above.

  4. I think it can be tough to find a balance, and we usually find ourselves to be busy. I am so busy working and taking care of my kids.. but my friend who doesn’t have kids is always super busy and traveling. It is sort of what you make of it, like you said we adapt.

  5. I am sorry to hear about your unsuccessful relationships in the past. Being single is fun, but sadness just kicks in sometimes. And as they say, tough roads leads to beautiful destinations.

  6. I have been married for 15 years, we got married when I was 18. I met my husband when I was 16 and at first, I felt like I didn’t know who I was as a person since I was never alone. That is something being single can teach you for sure, I have now just come into myself and know more about who I truly am, I kind of did things in reverse but I am glad to have done it this way looking back although there were some hard times for sure.

  7. Sounds like you have learned a lot. There are always great things about being single too. I’m sure you’ll find the right one soon!

  8. I am sorry to hear that you will not be able to have children, but as an adoptee, I am happy to hear that you are open to that option. Hopefully, if you want to marry, you will find the right person one day. However, it sounds like you’ve learned some things that may help you avoid painful divorce if you ever do.

  9. These are valuable life lessons. I had to teach myself how to be alone. I didn’t know how to enjoy my own company. I’m not all the way there, but I’ve come a long way.

  10. Being single was amazing for me and i did learn a lot. I am sure you would learn a lot when you are with someone as well. I mostly learned to be more patient and adjusting.

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